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  • How To Turn On The Charm

    Every man's quest in life is, at some point, to become the most charming version of himself. Whether you were born being told you were suave or grew up thinking you were a huge nerd, being charming is something that everyone can do. However, if you’re like me and need a little kick-start, I’ve compiled 6 easy steps to instantly become more charming. Follow these to start your journey to being the most dapper and refined version of yourself.

    1. Stop Trying To Be Charming

    Yes, the first step to being charming is to stop trying to be charming. The more you overthink your smooth moves the more they, well, look completely amateur. The biggest step to becoming your most charming self is to stop pressuring yourself to be charming. Once you stop overthinking everything, people will sense the genuineness in everything you say and do and will naturally gravitate towards you. By getting out of your head and trying to be yourself, you’ll be surprised how suave you are when you’re not trying to be something you’re not.

    2. Don’t Have A “Thing”

    Furthermore, don’t try to pigeonhole yourself. Don’t attempt to be the guy who always does X or Y. Instead, just go with the flow and enjoy yourself. People can always smell authenticity, so you may as well give them what they want. Without a schtick, people will stop seeing you as “that dude” and attempt to get to know you for the charming person you are.

    3. Take Care Of Your Appearance

    You know what is charming? A guy who takes care of himself and cares enough to present a put-together appearance to the outside world. Comb your damn hair; up your wardrobe game a little, develop a grooming routine. You might think that's shallow, but the truth is, the better you look, the better you'll feel about yourself. This causes your confidence levels to go up, and will allow for your natural charm to come through. By putting stock in your own body and appearance, you’re investing in becoming the best person you can be.

    4. Don’t Be Afraid To Laugh

    Charming men have one thing in common: The ability to laugh at themselves. When you’re a charming guy, you don’t care if someone takes a friendly jab at you; you let it roll off of you. One way to instantly be charming is to show everyone the great sense of humor you have and don’t be afraid to laugh.

    5. Chivalry Is *Not* Dead

    Despite what you may have heard, chivalry is not dead. It's all about respect. If you’re hanging out with a woman who wants to split the check, listen to her. However, don’t be afraid to open the door to a building or car for them. Even though some people will argue that it is demeaning to women, you’ll be surprised how many appreciate a man attempting to be an old-fashioned gentleman. The key here is to check for cues as to how she feels about the the issue. If she says she's into it, then go for it.  

    6. Actually Listen When Someone Talks

    And it all comes full circle! By not trying to impress people, this is a step that will come naturally. When you actually listen to what someone is saying to you instead of constantly wondering what charming thing you’re going to reply with, the genuine connection you’ll feel is astounding. By being attentive to someone else’s hopes, dreams, and needs, you’re being the most charming person you could be.

    RELATED: 13 Things That Men Do That Women Agree Are Secret Turn-Ons

    The biggest obstacle men face when trying to be charming is their own heads. Usually, they’re so caught up in being charming they forget to respect the other person they’re speaking to. At the end of the day, you can’t force being charming, but by following these small tips you’re on your way to feeling more comfortable in your own skin. When you feel good about yourself, you exude charm and sexiness.

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  • 9 Things All Guys Do That Women Secretly Find Annoying

    Wondering why you aren't getting anywhere with that cute girl at work? Confused because the girl you met on Tinder blew you off after your first date? Was it something you said? She probably won't tell you, because she's polite. Good news — that doesn't mean you're doomed to ignorance forever! There are certain conversational traps that men often fall into, like bad habits. You may not even realize it but if you're doing any of the things on this list, there's an excellent chance she thinks you're annoying:

    1) Joking When Women Are Being Serious

    Yeah, yeah, you all heard that women love funny men. That doesn't mean that you'll win her heart by firing off jokes when she's in the middle of a work crisis! Contrary to popular opinion, it probably won't make her feel better. She's trying to talk about something that's important to her and you're seizing the opportunity to make a joke that SNL did five years ago. I hate to break it to you, but it wasn't funny then and it certainly won't strike her as funny when she's upset because she deleted the wrong file on her computer.

    2) Correcting Us On Points Of Trivia

    She says in her OkCupid profile that she's watched all twelve of Quentin Tarantino's films. You, being a Tarantino buff, know that the man has directed thirteen films. You’re itching to point this out to her — surely she’ll be grateful for the correction!

    No, friend. She will not. Nor will she appreciate you pointing out that her favorite band was formed in 1999 instead of 1998. Here's a simple test: Is the correction Really Important? Is it a life-or-death issue? If it's not, consider letting this one go. Unless she's trying to win Local Trivia Night, chances are she will be unimpressed by your correction.

    3) Giving Us Tongue-In-Cheek Compliments

    You know that scene in that romantic movie where the girl comes down the stairs in a breathtaking ball gown and her date says jokingly "Jeez, you could've at least made an effort"? No? That's because that's not the stuff of romance.

    I know: complimenting women is scary and for suckers because it makes you seem vulnerable. If you tell her how beautiful she looks, she might think you like her! Here's the thing: you have to put yourself out there sometimes. A sincere, well-timed compliment will stay with her for a long, long time. And you want to be that guy who stays in her head for a long, long time.

    4) Unsolicited Advice On How To Fix Our Problems

    Sometimes women talk about their problems without wanting advice on how to solve them. A radical concept! But it is born of a basic human need: the need to vent. When she tells you about the horrible thing Martha said to her at brunch, you don't need to immediately respond with, "Well, why don't you tell Martha to take a hike?" Chances are she already knows what the solution is. Maybe the obvious solution is not feasible, for whatever reason. (Maybe Martha is planning on leaving her money in the will.) Whatever the situation, it can be annoying to be given obvious advice. If she isn't asking you for advice, maybe she doesn't want it.

    5) Never Asking Us Questions About How We Are

    If you're texting a girl, be sure to ask her questions. Why? Because if you don't, the conversation will die. It's really as simple as that. How can you play tennis with a partner who doesn't return your ball? Why should she respond to a long text about your day, unless you follow up with "How was your day?" She wants to date a man who's interested in her life. What books she likes. What her favorite flavor of ice cream is. If you're not psychic and you don't ask her questions, how will you ever figure out it's mint chocolate chip?

    6) Always Talking About What They Find Hot & Not

    "I don't think it's hot when women —" What’s that? The beginning of a sentence that’s a terrible idea, actually. Women aren't necessarily looking for your opinion on whether you prefer blondes or brunettes, or whether sandals are attractive! Sandals are comfortable — she's not wearing them expressly for the purpose of your boner. Even if you're talking about something you find hot, this line of conversation can backfire. It sounds as if your opinion is the only one that matters, and that's never a good thing.

    7) Seizing Every Opportunity To Have A Debate

    No, her Facebook status is not the place for you to begin a 300-comment thread debating her opinion. Debating isn't necessarily fun! It can be exhausting to have everything you say questioned or argued with. If you don't agree with something your date says, you don't have to have a debate about it. Imagine being the guy she tells her friend about the next day: "It was so awful! He spent the whole main course arguing about whyBreaking Bad was a better show than The Wire." Pick your battles.

    8) Expecting Us To Entertain Them

    Here's a good rule of thumb: Don't just talk to women because you're bored. The "I'm bored. What's up?" text is something every woman has gotten, and it's always annoying. Even worse, it has about as much sex appeal as a wet sock. Now she's thinking of you as a guy who has absolutely nothing fun or creative to say. Yuck. Similarly, you shouldn't be expecting women to be doing the entertaining on dates. Too many guys sit back, fold their arms, and expect the woman to impress them. You're advertising yourself, too! Talk about things that excite you. Talk about why lobsters look like a mistake of nature. This is a two-way street, bucko.

    RELATED: Women On Reddit Reveal Sexy, Subtle Gestures That Turn Them On

    9) Quizzing Us When We Say We Like Something

    "Oh, you drink whiskey? Really? I find that hard to believe… what brand? Don't worry, I won't judge you. Well, only a little bit." It's 2016. Time to learn that women may like lots of the things you like! Including video games, sports, comics, cheap beer, and even that one really manly show you watch where dudes wrestle grizzly bears in the outback. If you guys have stuff in common, that's great! Talk about it. But don't act as if she automatically has something to prove. Playing gatekeeper isn't attractive, and you're wasting valuable time that you could be spending talking about that grizzly bear wrestling show you both like so much.

    There you have it — how not to annoy women. And, as any woman will tell you, not being annoying goes a long way to romantic success.

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  • Does She Still Love You?

    A lot happens in long-term relationships: new jobs and the loss of some, new homes and moving in together, the loss of old friends and the start of new friendships. As you navigate years — and many milestones — together, it’s normal to lose that same luster and fire for one another that you had when you first met. Life, and love, will always change as you age and continue on, but if you’re starting to doubt that your girlfriend cares about you the same way she used to, then it might be time to check in on your relationship. Especially if you’re lying next to her or sitting across the dinner table from her, wondering “Does she still love me?”

    “It is normal to worry in a relationship if your partner still loves you. People have doubts; that is just part of human nature, especially if you are the type of person who is always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Relationships are constantly changing,” says dating expert and matchmaker, Sarah Patt. “Once the courting stage has concluded and your significant other becomes a normal part of your day-to-day life, things in your relationship may dim because you don’t have to try so hard and you’re in a comfort zone with each other.”

    This type of over-eagerness and self-esteem issues might not seem like a big deal, but if you don’t face what’s plaguing you, it has the ability to overtake your relationship and causes issues when there never were issues to begin with. To help solve this, take it from the dating and love experts who can help you see the signs that she totally loves you. Maybe even more than she ever has before:

    1) Why Are You Feeling This Way?

    Before addressing anything with your live-in girlfriend, you must take some time to do soul searching. Oftentimes, when we’re obsessing over tiny details and over-analyzing someone else’s feelings, it’s an indicator of what’s going on inside our own lives. Have you recently been laid off and you’re feeling like less of a provider? Or have you been so preoccupied with your career or caring for a family member that your relationship feels like it’s taking a backseat to everything else in your life? Look for any big change that’s taken place in the past six months that could be impacting your love life, and check-in with yourself first. Experts agree that coming from a healthy place of self-care and self-love will build your confidence when you’re sharing your life and heart with someone else.

    Laurel House, dating expert and coach on E!’s Famously Single says you might be falling for her so much (or already have been so in love with her for so long) that you’re starting to become afraid of losing her, and thus, you worry that she doesn’t love you. “There are points in a relationship when one person or the other gets scared. This often happens because their heart is opening, and that feeling can bring up and release old pushed down emotions and pain from the past. And that’s scary,” she explains.

    RELATED: How To Rebuild Your Relationship If One Of You Cheats

    2) How Is She Acting?

    “There are a lot of reasons that a man might worry about his partner not loving him anymore. If he starts noticing a lack of intimacy, he might start to wonder if she is no longer attracted to him. If she starts canceling plans and just wants to stay home, he might fear she doesn’t care to spend alone time with him. If her style of communication has changed or declined, he might think she no longer cares what he’s up to,” Patt explains.

    Before you approach the conversation with her, take note of what’s changed from her perspective that could explain her actions. You need to come from a loving place of care and concern, and having concrete examples will help you state your case without relying too much on emotional stress.

    3) Could It Be Something Else?

    Now, put the first and second pieces together: You recently got a new job that’s keeping you from being home as often, so she’s been making more plans with her friends because you aren’t around. That’s why when you randomly ask her to grab a drink at your favorite lounge on a Tuesday, she can’t make it. While every relationship will have different examples, using logic — instead of the fear bubbling up inside of you — will help ease your mind and troubles: “There may be a few different causes for these behavior changes. If she has recently changed her career or picked up a hobby, her new busy lifestyle could be to blame. Or if things have begun to ramp up at work, she could be too stressed out to focus on the relationship. These are signs that she might just be distracted,” Patt explains.

    4) What About The Small Stuff?

    House says that instead of looking out for those big gestures of affection or reassurance, look for the things that might not seem like they mean much, but mean more than the rest. “When she’s at the grocery store, she buys your favorite watermelon gum at checkout and brings it to you. It might seem trite, but the fact that she is thinking about you and wants to show you by taking action and buy then bringing you that gum, is an act of love,” House says.

    Patt adds: “When she leaves for work in the morning, does she leave you a note telling you to have a ‘great day’?” If she is always letting you know she is thinking about you, it’s a good sign.”

    5) What Is She Like On A Bad Day?

    Part of the beauty of a relationship is that it’s often a safe harbor when you’ve had a crap day at the office or got into a fight with a pal. Or maybe, you’re just not feeling as attractive as you did a few months or a year ago. Our partners are there for us to rely on and place our trust in. And if your lady is still dying to come home to you after a tough day, you don’t have reason to worry. “When she’s really hurting, feels ashamed, or is scared, she lets you in. It’s hard to pull the facade of perfection down and actually let someone see you,” she explains. “When she shows you her truth, her insecurity, her shame, what she is saying is that she trusts you so much, that she trusts you with her!”

    RELATED: Are You In A Toxic Relationship? Here's What You Need To Know

    6) What Is She Like Online?

    Does she still tag photos of you? Post updates about things you’re doing together? Even if you feel not as connected as you once were, when your girlfriend is letting the rest of the world know you’re in a committed relationship and claiming you as her partner — on and offline — then Patt says it’s a good indicator that she still loves you. After all, why show off someone you don’t care about or don’t want to be with? That just makes for a messy newsfeed.

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  • IF YOU HAVE THESE TWO HOLES ON YOUR BACK YOU ARE REALLY SPECIAL

     

    They are called Venus holes; these are small circles, which are formed on the lower back in men and women. If they are found in men then they are called Apollo holes.

    They are located on the site of the junction between the two bones of the pelvis, and can be seen only in people who have this genetic predisposition or the appropriate size ligaments. We cannot choose whether we have them or not, because it usually depends on genetics.

    They are a sign of good circulation and a healthy body, a great circulation is an important prerequisite to achieve orgasm more easily.

    Since Venus holes are located at the place where there is no muscle, it is impossible to create some exercises that can make them show up, but if you work to eliminate excess body fat, these holes can become visible.

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